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On Coming Clean


       I've started using Twitter a lot, and it's made me think about the idea of exposing yourself. Sometimes I feel like I/we use Twitter as a place to complain, other times I see it as a useful tool to connect people in real time, like earlier this month when #whyistayed and #whyileft were going around or live tweeting during the EWA conference. But I also spend a lot of my time on Twitter talking about how late I am, or how much I need coffee to get through my mornings. Is it this new cultural norm to want everyone to know everything about my life? Do I really see myself as that important?

       I suppose the proper Millennial/Generation Z answer would be well of course. But it's not just 90's kids on Twitter, from what I can tell there are tons of older people on Twitter and other social media as well. In school it's all about how you perceive yourself. When I went through training at the Shorthorn they told me "Perception is Reality" which is the basis of that scary movie that just came out "As above, So below". Basically, if you make it look like you're charming and put together, then you are.

       Then we have things like this blog. I do a lot of journal entry type posts where I admit to feeling scared, or embarrassed, or mad, or whatever. Yeah yeah employers see this stuff like my peer mentor said in a learn-how-to-college class I have to go to. But are the ideas or experienced of me as a college freshman that impactful on my work ethic or whatever else needed to determine hireability? I guess the better question is does exposing your personal/emotional/spiritual/whatever life give people a reason to look down on you when perception is reality?

       One of my professors quoted proverbs 17:28 this week "even the foolish are thought wise if they keep silent." Does that mean people see me as stupid if I admit to feeling a certain way? Then again I personally respect brute honesty from people. I like it when someone tells me they're feeling overwhelmed, it makes me want to do whatever I can to help them. I also like when people tell met they're mad, or disappointed in me. (On aside, I really hate disappointing people or not living up to expectations. Most of the time I come up with these overly ambitious expectations for myself anyway but that's another post.)

       If perception is reality, and I'm showing off that I have emotions and self doubts, and all these other flaws, does that make me a flawed person? I think the answer lies within the question. Yes perception is realiaty, I think the problem is with social media in general. Especially sites like Linkedin, and Facebook where only future employers and grandmothers look. I'm putting my best self up on these types of sites so people think I'm smart, and charming and whatever else. Wouldn't it be a better experience if employers/people knew the worst about us? Again I respect brute honesty, and that's why I give it when people can take it. Maybe linkedin needs a "Things I really suck at" list instead of an endorsement list.

       I think what social media needs in a human element, which is why twitter so so successful. On twitter you can see the good AND the bad sides of me. You can see that I'm late to class sometimes, or that I really didn't agree with a person. The thing with social media is it doesn't have to all be sunshine and rainbows and endorsement lists.  People make up the internet, so making us appear non-human (i.e. perfect happy socialites all the time) is making a fake world.

       I don't known, I think I'm thinking myself in circles to ignore studying for a spanish test. What do you think? Does brute honesty about yourself make you weak? Why should we think we matter on social media? When does Social Media go too far? 

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